Thursday, December 30, 2010

Update

Leaving the house was a success today. Wesley was a total angel and charmer at the doctor's office. So much so that my midwife said he was "so well-behaved. It's amazing!" Now I understand why moms would always counter my compliments about their sweet children with "Yeah well, you should see him/her.... etc." But yes, today, he was amazing.

In other news, any tips on how to stop hating your husband's job? Advice from anyone who has been there will be greatly appreciated.

3 comments:

jenny said...

Hi love. Just checking in. I miss you! I cannot believe you are about to have TWO CHILDREN. Hope all is well. You guys are my favorite. Happy New Year! Can't wait to see the new bundle.

LadyCarma said...

Hating the hubby's job, though hard admit,is, at least, truthful. All I can say is: count your blessings. Your husband has a job.
All those nights alone with the children to take care of by yourself, those tough decisions when you are the only adult in the house, the bratty attitude kids when their daddy's not home, etc. I have been there, done that. It isn't easy, but it can be done. Hang in there.

Kate Challis said...

Hey! Yeah, I get what you mean about the "she's an angel!" comments.

About hating the hubby's job: this is a battle I deal with, too. I am addicted to being with Danny. I hate that he has to go away for such long extended periods during the day. He gets back at 5:30 at night, and it feels like we basically have time to eat dinner, put the kids to bed, and then go to bed ourselves. He has to get up at 5:30 in the morning so we can't stay up super late like we used to. This is also a battle we deal with.

I would say, it's been important for me to disconnect him from his work. This is impossible if I'm conscientiously thinking negative thoughts about his work. Bad thoughts directed towards him arise if I start verbalizing to myself about how much I hate his work (well, him being away, more like). Or if I start comparing the amount of work I do at home to what he does, or things like that. Even writing this, hehe.

To get my mind off of those negative thoughts, instead I try by best to do nice things for him, and to notice the nice things he is constantly doing for me. Like making him a nice dinner, or something like that (ha, but you're prego so cooking can be tough). Or I dunno. Little tiny things like putting his slippers in the right place, or making guacamole. And noticing when he does similar things for me.

I'm not sure how this relates to his work, but it does. It's made me not be so frustrated with him being gone. That, and I am a total NPR addict. It is great for taking my mind off waiting for him to get back, especially since conversations with Jane are like this, "Where's your NOSE?" "THEHSHEIS!" repeated 999,999 times/day.

You can do it. It will get SO MUCH BETTER when you're not pregnant. Just remember that. During the last 3 weeks of being prego with Dan, I stayed in bed most of the day, I felt so horrible. Don't have insane expectations for yourself.